Monday, October 02, 2006

MORE...but not the REST of the story...

You know, when you live with something all your life, it becomes ordinary. Forgetting the potential shock value, the subject of my last post was supposed to be a mere commentary on how weird it is for me to do those 'birthday' things. I even read my horoscope with a jaded eye.

There's a lot more to the abandonment/adoption story - mostly concerning the 9 months between the time I was found and the day I went home with my adoptive parents. But you'll have to wait for that. I think I've already freaked some of you out - and not intentionally! So I'll give you another part of the story that is more light-hearted than those tragic first nine months of my life.

We're flashing WAY forward, to around 1999. I saw one of those "Unsolved Mysteries" programs - which I NEVER watch. They had found the body of a young girl at some point in the mid-1970's and couldn't determine her identity. A sheriff in this particular area of Florida decided to reopen the case, as it had haunted him since her discovery. He commissioned an age-regression study - figuring she might be some type of runaway. He was in hopes that a formar teacher, classmate, minister, etc., might recognize her. As the regression was displayed on the television, I started feeling panicky, pacing the room. As the girl was portrayed as a younger and younger person, she became the spitting image of myself as a teen, then a pre-adolescent, then as a child. Buck-teeth and all. At the end of the segment, the host (Robert Stack, pictured here) looked directly into the television with one final clue: "The woman apparently had given birth to a child in the last few years." My jaw dropped.

I consulted with my husband; I had never been on a mad search for my birth mother - but this was too big to ignore. Even though I had been found in California, it didn't mean that my birth mother stayed in the state. I wrote down all the details I could remember, and then called the sheriff's department that had been featured on the show. They were clueless. I spoke with several people at the department, and since I couldn't remember the officer's name - no luck. All I wanted to know is if they could perform some sort of DNA analysis to compare mine with hers...and you can imagine how far that got me. When I finally found someone who could recall something about the case, they commented that the officer I needed to speak with had retired. On to contacting "Unsolved Mysteries." After several unsuccessful attempts to phone the show, I finally emailed them through their contact screen on the web site. What did I get for my efforts? A nice letter, acknowledging my contact, and a promise to let me know if anything further developed in the case.

As silly as it may sound, I still think that woman could have been my mother. Her image is still in my mind. It was that year that I decided to take more practical steps in order to discover the true story of my abandonment.

9 comments:

Silly Hily said...

I'm amazed I guess at how you think that even this post is really no big deal, as to tell us about it instead of the first nine months. This whole story, your life, has me so intrigued. I just can't imagine.
I mean, watching Unsolved Mysteries and seeing a woman who could pass for your twin and realizing that it could be your mother since you had no idea who she was. And THEN to have no one help you with it when you contacted so many people. That's horrible. How can they deny helping you learn if that woman was your mother?
Not to sound to freaky but more, more, more? If you don't mind.
And may I suggest you writing a book? I will totally buy it.

Karmyn R said...

I agree with hily - I am so intrigued by your story.

My history has no mystery. (no rhyme intended) So - for you to have such unanswered questions is just mind-blowing to me. I agree - you should write all this down and you could turn it into a book. I am eager for more!!!!1 Don't keep us waiting too long.

piglet said...

How cool is that? And how stupid could those show people be? That is an amazing story you have.

M J said...

Well I am hooked all ready.

Come on, freak us out with the rest. I can't wait.

C said...

This is very mysterious. I wonder if this woman was your mother.

momto3cubs said...

Wow, I hope you do find your birth mother someday. Alive. That is really awful that you couldn't talk to the right person after the show and have them check out the possible link.

Julie said...

I am so glad you decided to write a little so soon. I was hoping we wouldn't have to wait long. You know, we could all start calling the show, emailing the show, etc. You could contact Oprah and tell her that they wouldn't talk to you and you want to know if it is your mother. HA! If we can help with anything let us know. Us blogging sisters have to stick together!

Oh, I forgot to ask for more of the story. Keep it coming, or tell us when the book is coming out.

Pamela said...

It's ridiculous that they would pass up the opportunity for another story...

Just seems there should be another avenue to pursue it.

Swampwitch said...

I hope you find just the right person who will help you follow-up on this story. Why would this show air and then the producers not do everything possible to use your leads to solve this? There is someone out there, and I agree with Julie,to contact everyone you can think of...if you have the time and energy. Your story is such a bittersweet one and I hope you will share more with your blogfriends.