Wednesday, May 03, 2006

I Am Grup

After a recent trip out with friends to a club, I was reminded of an article that I read about "grups." (Full text of this fascinating article here, with thanks to Mr. Big.) Pictured to the right is a couple in their late 30's, with children younger than my daughter. The author of this article has noticed a trend I thought was my own personal identity crisis - that many people my age "refuse to grow up." I am evidently not alone.

I joke all the time to my husband about how the nursing homes one day will be filled with the tunes of the Doors, Jimi Hendrix, and Led Zeppelin - as little old men in wheelchairs pester nurses for a spare joint. As the article suggests, that vision may not be far off. It seems as if more and more people in their 30's, 40's and 50's have kept up with fashion and pop music, breaking the cycle of "parents who just can't understand the music these days," thereby partially eliminating the generation gap. I listen to Bloc Party, and yes, they ARE better than The Bravery. My husband hangs his many guitars on our dining room walls. My friend, whiterabbit, still wears Converse. My daughter has just discovered The Cure and New Order...what's going on here?

The author claims it's our generation's passion for life, something I whole-heartedly agree with. In the closing paragraph, he states, "Being a Grup isn’t, as it turns out, all about holding on to some misguided, well-marketed idea of youth—or, at least, isn’t just about that. It’s also about rejecting a hand-me-down model of adulthood that asks, or even necessitates, that you let go of everything you ever felt passionate about. It’s about reimagining adulthood as a period defined by promise, rather than compromise. And who can’t relate to that?"

Awesome...totally. Now excuse me, while I go dancing.


SongBird said...

I'm an adult. Grup sounds too much like what I dig up in my garden and use for fish bait.

Whiterabbit said...

At some point, I realized that the dye had been cast and I was going to be the way I was for the rest of my life, at least on the inside. I can still come off as 10 years younger that my actual age which is a nice perk. I determined what my wardrobe would be for the rest of my life in the early 80's and still dress that way.
The thing that scares the hell out of me is when I see someone who is WAY too old to be trying to dress "Hip". This was particularly unnerving during the Madonna haydays, and women seemed guilty of it more often than men. Everytime I see someone like that, a little voice in my head says "See, don't you EVER let that happen to you"! I know I have a good dose of "Peter Pan" syndrome and am fine with that, and enjoy laughing at myself almost daily. Plus, it keeps my friends on their toes.